Date Like A Demon

Having previously touched on reasons why one might wish to remain single, I would now like to give you some reasons why you may wish to date. And by dating I do not mean a committed or serious relationship but having a go and putting yourself on the market. I don’t believe that going on a date actually obligates you do anything more than show up (hopefully with an open mind), so in the long run, you really do have much to gain.

Two good reasons to get out there are to see whom you attract and to whom you are attracted. Dating gives you a way to figure out the kinds of qualities that really appeal to you or things that perhaps you never realised you couldn’t live with. Often things will seem different when you are seeing them first-hand as opposed to thinking about them objectively and this can be quite helpful. Likewise it can be advantageous to see whom you attract because if you find you are constantly attracting incompatible mates, you may need to look at the way you interact with others.

Dating also provides an excellent opportunity to learn about yourself, get comfortable and practice setting boundaries. People frequently find that it takes a certain amount of adjustment to consider yourself as part of a partnership rather than solely independent. It also takes a certain amount of balance to maintain your own personality and dating is the best way to learn this. We all need to learn how to stay in touch with our feelings, how to say yes or no to someone else and to interact with others in a manner that will not threaten a relationship.

Another important reason to actively go out and date is that you can expand your social circle. If you never do anything but work and sleep, you may not be providing yourself with any possibilities for meeting a potential partner. When you date someone, you may quickly find out that they are not your perfect match but they may just have a best friend or a work colleague, or get you in the right place at the right time to meet that special someone.

In addition to the above reasons, should you decide to start a mass dating campaign, you will be able to get a sense of all the possibilities out there. Finding others in your situation, you will realise that you are definitely not alone and that there all sorts of people who may be looking for the same thing you are. You will get a chance to see that there are people who don’t fit the narrow stereotypes of bitchy women or uncommunicative men and dating will enable you to feel desirable when you find people who want to get to know you and spend time with you.

By far the best reason though is to have fun. When you date, you are more likely to make time for the fun things in life. You may go to dinner, concerts, movies or to other places of interest to you. You will get the chance to enrich your life by experience and with all the other advantages, what have you really got to lose?