A La Carte

Have you ever noticed that when single people are asked what they want in a partner, they never say ‘well beggars can’t be choosers’? Whether you’re picky and pedantic or merely practical, the question is usually responded to with a list (or in some cases a litany) of attributes that might be desired in another person. And have you also noticed that when you answer this sort of question, it feels a bit like trying to order off a menu? You like this, you can’t stand that, you’re partial to something else and of course you want what is going to sate your desire best. Yes? No? That’s just me? Do you think it’d be easier if we could pick and choose like that? Could a good relationship be like a fine dining experience?

I can just imagine turning up somewhere, possibly with good friends with whom you’d like to be able to share your journey. There is a friendly atmosphere that reflects both comfort and style and would be a place where you can feel relaxed and just a little bit special. You sit down and start off with drinks to get you in the mood. Something to stimulate the palate, a good conversation. You peruse the menu identifying those things that appeal and those that turn you off. Perhaps you can take one look at what is on offer and make your decision easily or you might want to confer with your dinner companions. They might have dined there before or could otherwise offer advice which might aid your decision.

You might start off with something light. It could be that tall, dark and handsome (or slim, busty and blonde) is your standard. Whatever it is it will invariably come with a garnish that might as well be good dress sense cause if you’re going ‘out’ it really isn’t just about how it tastes. After your entrée, your mains will contain a little more substance. Conversation, consideration and compassion, not to mention a good sense of humour, are pretty much staple ingredients. Some people will lean towards these with an intrepid sense of adventure whereas there are those that appreciate something quieter or more intellectual. A passion for creation or invention is also a popular choice. Being good with your hands is always…handy.

Not everyone will go for dessert but if you’re anything like me, you might have a sweet tooth and see this course as an important part of the meal. If you’re going for indulgence then it could be a romantic streak that appeals. It might be someone who likes sports or shopping or maybe someone who really shines in social situations. Whatever your preference, this would then be followed up with coffee and commitment (or was that liqueur and love). All in all, a good meal will flow seamlessly, each course prepared to perfection and arriving right on time. That sounds rather nice I think. But it really doesn’t work like that.

Personally, the last time I went to a restaurant (a real one that is), they had already run out of my first two choices for a main course. They also ran out of my choice of dessert which turned into a double whammy because they forgot to actually tell me this before they brought out everyone else’s. I must say, it was a bit disappointing. I am the person who can go out for my favourite meal only to find that it is no longer on the menu or who will ask for something to be told my request cannot be accommodated. Fortunately though, I am also a fan of food and will not let this deter me. But hey, if all else fails there’s always McDonalds and their slogan is ‘I’m lovin’ it’. What do you think?