Perfection?

Well after having read the SMH forum today on what men really want, I’d have to say I now have a pretty good grasp on it. And its as simple as this: Men want women to be women. Not women pretending to be men but REAL women. The kind that will embrace their feminine side with open arms and be the epitome of grace and strength. The kind of person that will fit into any crowd, adapt to any situation and be a helpmeet to their partner. Someone who can be the perfect complement to a real man without losing her sense of self.

A woman for example, will understand her partner’s need for personal time. She will not have a problem if he goes off with the boys to do manly things, but likewise she will fit in with them and be the perfect hostess should they all come round to watch footy or tinker with the car. She will be able to converse knowledgably on sports or technology, however, she would never be so uncouth as to show the same level of fanaticism for these topics as her partner. Nor would she swear, carouse, smoke, exhibit loutish behaviour or drink to excess even though she should be able to imbibe just as much as the boys should the occasion call for it.

A real woman will have class and poise no matter what situation she is in. She will not be prissy about getting her hands a little dirty if hard work is required throughout her day. She will be able to step into an evening gown the same evening however, and impress anyone she comes into contact with. She will dress like she loves her body, not like she is merely trying to show it off and she will have both beauty and style whilst never being ostentatious. She will be sexy without being sluttish and will have no need to either cake on the makeup or drown herself in scent. Quite simply put, she will be extremely attractive.

The perfect woman has just the right blend of strength and vulnerability. She will be assertive, driven and confident but never superior, controlling or uncompromising. With both honour and integrity, she will not put up with less than is her due but she will be considerate and compassionate in her dealings with others. She will never nag and be shrewish but will only offer constructive criticisms where necessary and work towards mutually desired outcomes. Positive, easy-going and patient are all words that could describe this woman.

Independent and affectionate are also words that she will strive to embody. Whilst having her own hopes and dreams she will be endowed with the intelligence to achieve them on her own and the wisdom to include her partner. She would not be clingy or suffocating in this relationship however, but supportive, nurturing and when it comes to the physical side, sensual, generous and comfortable enough to initiate intimacy. She would communicate easily and clearly, never expecting her mind to be read and would be forgiving and loyal without fault.

It must also be said that she should be a stable person, not given to bouts of insecurity or obsessive compulsive behaviour. She would not be materialistic or preoccupied with popular culture and neither overly judgmental nor possessing double standards. With tolerance, honesty, empathy, wit and just a little bit of sass, she would be a treasure beyond all price. Such a woman could look after herself but would let a man do it as well. And if that isn’t enough, she should be able to cook sumptuous meals, clean away the hardest stains, go hiking off the beaten track, raise angelic children, fill out a TAB ticket and manage the household budget with flair all whilst just being herself.

Who knew it was that simple!